On the healing journey, where trust is so important, there’s nothing like the dismal feeling of being betrayed and let down by someone you were in a relationship with! It can hurt like hell — that’s for sure. There is good news though. Overcoming betrayal can actually allow for a lot of personal growth and development, as well as, help you reclaim energy you may have been letting leak out all along…even before the relationship began.

It’s time to reclaim that energy and your personal power!

First and foremost, I suggest stepping out of the blame game and taking 100% personal accountability for ignoring the red flags you inevitably experienced along the way. Believe me, if you can do this, you are way more than halfway there. Often times our intuition is shoved aside because we are lonely, comfortable with the status quo, or just desperate to be in a relationship or to make one work out. Perhaps we have an underlying story that the person we are with is the only one out there for us, or are terrified of being alone or starting the dating process all over again.

Not only are these stories we tell ourselves normal, but they are also quite common. Taking pause and looking back at all the times you raised your eyebrows and knew something was amiss are important reflections to make time for. Realizing that you were aware of these things and brushed them aside allows for you to own your role and responsibility in the relationship. That is an essential part of moving forward.

Secondly, accept the reality of where you are in processing the betrayal in a relationship by fully accepting your feelings. I personally believe that the bridge between divinity and humanity is through one’s own emotions. The more you can process what is going on for you by being aware of what your true feelings are, the more you can become present and the quicker you can move forward. With this also comes the ability to really forgive the other person at a deep level and also empowers you to forgive yourself as well. Learn more ways to support this process by checking out Processing Emotions and Forgiveness Through Breathwork.

Lastly, set up a routine for self-care and ask others for guidance. Establishing a routine can work wonders by grounding you in taking care of yourself and life’s necessities. Eating well, exercising, sleeping, and drinking enough water are imperative for feeling good. Also, seek help from those who love and care about you, whether that be a trusted friend, coach, or colleague. You do not have to do this alone!

As you move through these steps be gentle with yourself and know that it will get better! Someday soon you will trust again and get that pep back in your step. Stay true to yourself by taking personal accountability, own your feelings, stick to a self-care routine, and reach out to those who have your best interests at heart.